Why couples “fight” before the wedding
Don’t worry you are not alone.
Most couples have at least one or two major arguments before the wedding. This is normal. A fight or argument doesn’t mean one person doesn’t love the other or that they don’t want to marry each other. Usually, fights mean an overload of stress and anxiety. Getting to the root of the problem and then taking some time to unwind and relax are the best solutions when angry words start to fly.
Below are some of the most common roots of pre-wedding arguments;
Money
As the guest list grows and bills accumulate, the bank accounts and credit limits begin to shrink. Not only do they shrink, they shrink a lot faster that most couples ever expect. As the bills pile up and the money and credit limits start to dwindle, fights over funds are practically guaranteed.
The guest list
A major part of contention might be how many guests are invited from the bride’s side and how many are invited from the groom’s side. Of course, this also relates directly to who is paying for what. Unless there’s been a clear-cut agreement that the bride’s side or the groom’s side is footing the bill, the couple needs to discuss where the money is coming from and what it’s going to be used for. The amount of money contributed by each side effects how many guests are invited on either side.
Second cousins, high school buddies that haven’t been seen in years, the uncle nobody’s ever met, coworkers who aren’t really friends – all of these people could be automatic “no’s” when forming the guest list. Mothers are especially notorious for adding everyone that they can think of to the guest list. If the bride or groom’s parents are footing the entire bill for the reception themselves, there has to be some limit to who’s invited.
Wedding obsession
Letting the wedding take over the entire relationship often causes couples to fight with each other. The bride has to take time away from her agenda book, turn off the wedding shows, ditch the magazines, forget about the cloths, and just be herself once
in a while. The wedding ceremony and reception last one day, but the marriage is supposed to last forever. Couples often lose sight of this as the wedding date approaches.
Other things that might be affecting the bride or groom include:
· Feeling like they’re losing their “individual” identity by getting married.
· Fears about what the coming marriage and lifetime commitment will entail.
· Stress and anxiety related to change.
· Family expectations overwhelming personal wishes.
· Stage fright of getting up in front of people.
· Insecurity related to body image.
Click here for tips on how to relax!
Below are some of the most common roots of pre-wedding arguments;
Money
As the guest list grows and bills accumulate, the bank accounts and credit limits begin to shrink. Not only do they shrink, they shrink a lot faster that most couples ever expect. As the bills pile up and the money and credit limits start to dwindle, fights over funds are practically guaranteed.
The guest list
A major part of contention might be how many guests are invited from the bride’s side and how many are invited from the groom’s side. Of course, this also relates directly to who is paying for what. Unless there’s been a clear-cut agreement that the bride’s side or the groom’s side is footing the bill, the couple needs to discuss where the money is coming from and what it’s going to be used for. The amount of money contributed by each side effects how many guests are invited on either side.
Second cousins, high school buddies that haven’t been seen in years, the uncle nobody’s ever met, coworkers who aren’t really friends – all of these people could be automatic “no’s” when forming the guest list. Mothers are especially notorious for adding everyone that they can think of to the guest list. If the bride or groom’s parents are footing the entire bill for the reception themselves, there has to be some limit to who’s invited.
Wedding obsession
Letting the wedding take over the entire relationship often causes couples to fight with each other. The bride has to take time away from her agenda book, turn off the wedding shows, ditch the magazines, forget about the cloths, and just be herself once
in a while. The wedding ceremony and reception last one day, but the marriage is supposed to last forever. Couples often lose sight of this as the wedding date approaches.
Other things that might be affecting the bride or groom include:
· Feeling like they’re losing their “individual” identity by getting married.
· Fears about what the coming marriage and lifetime commitment will entail.
· Stress and anxiety related to change.
· Family expectations overwhelming personal wishes.
· Stage fright of getting up in front of people.
· Insecurity related to body image.
Click here for tips on how to relax!
