Words of Wisdom for the Groom to be!!
Try your best to have an opinion
Your fiancee is going to get annoyed if you don’t give at least a little input on one or two aspects of the wedding. You might not care about the style of napkins on the table of that your cake icing is called “fondant,” but maybe you really like music and you want to select the band. When your future bride asks what you think, the least thing that you can do is give her your full attention (turn off the game!) and take a peek at what she’s showing you.
Don’t run away
If your fiancee turns into the dreaded “Bridezilla” monster, try your best not to run away or cower in fear. This women is still the girl you love, she’s just a lot harder to recognize under all that wedding obsession and stress! Take her out for a date, plan a weekend away, turn off the ringers on the phone and give her a message. With a little special attention and pampering, you can banish the monster and have your sweetheart back.
Don’t be a “yes man”
Try not to just say “yes” to everything your fiancee suggests. This often gets interpreted as “I don’t care, leave me alone.” If you agree, at least try to offer a reason why. “ I like the red roses because they remind me of the flowers I bought you on our first anniversary,” for example. Or, “I love swing music and everyone will like dancing to it, so I agree we should book the band.”
If you offer help, follow through
Offer to help, and then help! If you’re not sure exactly how to go about this, ask. Don’t leave your bride feeling like she’s drowning in a sea of wedding details with nobody to help her. It’s your wedding too, so you should be involved in the planning process. Aren’t you even a little bit curious about how the ceremony will work? Or who’s sitting at the head table with you for the reception?
Help with your relatives
Help your fiancee deal with your family, after all, and you should be there to run interference when things go wrong between your girl and her future mother-in-law, for example. You know your family better then she does, so you know best when things move beyond simple disagreements and into the realm of the unacceptable.
Keep track of your groomsmen
Keep track of the best man and groomsmen, and make sure their attire is in order. This is especially important if your fiancee isn’t very close to them. She’s responsible for the attendants on her side of wedding party, so you should be responsible for the guys (or gals) on your side. Be detailed when you talk to your attendants. If you feel confused about the whole wedding thing, imagine what they must be thinking! Tell them how to get to the formal ware store, the time of the fittings, the return deadline, how to tie the tie, explain why they should polish their shoes, and so on.
If you are living together, help around the house
Help out with non-wedding chores you wouldn’t normally think about. Do the dishes need washing? Does the apartment need a good dusting? Without asking, take charge of some domestic duties so that your bride has one or two fewer things to worry about. This works best when you do it without being asked!
Your fiancee is going to get annoyed if you don’t give at least a little input on one or two aspects of the wedding. You might not care about the style of napkins on the table of that your cake icing is called “fondant,” but maybe you really like music and you want to select the band. When your future bride asks what you think, the least thing that you can do is give her your full attention (turn off the game!) and take a peek at what she’s showing you.
Don’t run away
If your fiancee turns into the dreaded “Bridezilla” monster, try your best not to run away or cower in fear. This women is still the girl you love, she’s just a lot harder to recognize under all that wedding obsession and stress! Take her out for a date, plan a weekend away, turn off the ringers on the phone and give her a message. With a little special attention and pampering, you can banish the monster and have your sweetheart back.
Don’t be a “yes man”
Try not to just say “yes” to everything your fiancee suggests. This often gets interpreted as “I don’t care, leave me alone.” If you agree, at least try to offer a reason why. “ I like the red roses because they remind me of the flowers I bought you on our first anniversary,” for example. Or, “I love swing music and everyone will like dancing to it, so I agree we should book the band.”
If you offer help, follow through
Offer to help, and then help! If you’re not sure exactly how to go about this, ask. Don’t leave your bride feeling like she’s drowning in a sea of wedding details with nobody to help her. It’s your wedding too, so you should be involved in the planning process. Aren’t you even a little bit curious about how the ceremony will work? Or who’s sitting at the head table with you for the reception?
Help with your relatives
Help your fiancee deal with your family, after all, and you should be there to run interference when things go wrong between your girl and her future mother-in-law, for example. You know your family better then she does, so you know best when things move beyond simple disagreements and into the realm of the unacceptable.
Keep track of your groomsmen
Keep track of the best man and groomsmen, and make sure their attire is in order. This is especially important if your fiancee isn’t very close to them. She’s responsible for the attendants on her side of wedding party, so you should be responsible for the guys (or gals) on your side. Be detailed when you talk to your attendants. If you feel confused about the whole wedding thing, imagine what they must be thinking! Tell them how to get to the formal ware store, the time of the fittings, the return deadline, how to tie the tie, explain why they should polish their shoes, and so on.
If you are living together, help around the house
Help out with non-wedding chores you wouldn’t normally think about. Do the dishes need washing? Does the apartment need a good dusting? Without asking, take charge of some domestic duties so that your bride has one or two fewer things to worry about. This works best when you do it without being asked!
